Girlfriends of Gamers

Recently I was shown a very hilarious YouTube video thanks to my boyfriend titled Sh** Gamers Say to Their Girlfriends. (

This video piqued my curiosity as to what pops up on a Google search of ‘being a girlfriend of a gamer’. To my surprise a good amount of interesting pages and videos popped up. I came across two wikiHow pages one being How to Get Your Girlfriend to Play Video Games and How to Juggle a Girlfriend and Video Gaming: 5 Steps.

When reading the first of the two sites, I found the approach of this website to relate more so to the motivational aspect of learning for both the male and female in these scenarios. One key motivational feature I noticed was an extrinsic motivator that the boyfriend would give to his girlfriend. The “make a trade” point is practically convincing the boyfriend that to get her to play video games with you, you can just trade off by giving her a “reward” for playing with you. Honestly, it’s a good idea because it gives the girlfriend motivation to play games with her boyfriend as well as allowing her more time to spend with the boyfriend altogether. It’s a win-win for the girlfriend and the boyfriend, boyfriend plays games, girlfriend gets rewards. Technically both receive rewards.

Another key point that is raised is to have fun when playing with your girlfriend. Girls don’t want to be yelled at when playing with you, especially since they know they aren’t an expert at this game. Thus, making it fun and engaging for the both of you makes it an overall better experience and a good bonding time for everyone involved.

The next wikiHow article takes a different approach. It contains two points focusing on things your girlfriend could be doing while you’re playing video games. Pointing out things that may “distract” your girlfriend while playing a video game. Although these ideas could work, i.e. getting her to develop a new hobby or read/knit while you’re playing games, in my opinion a better approach is to involve your girlfriend rather than excluding her from a hobby that you enjoy so much.

Both of these articles are very interesting and are attached at the bottom. Next time you’re with your girlfriend or boyfriend, include them in your gaming experience and I promise it will be fun.

4 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. kovvy
    Feb 06, 2012 @ 12:29:29

    I’m not sure what to say. A lot of the advice in those articles seemed very sexist and immature to me.


  2. anisabel1
    Feb 06, 2012 @ 12:36:22

    Yeah I could see how they come off as being sexist. They focus on a lot of stereotypical ideas about girls. I just found it very interesting that the wikiHows even existed. But couldn’t agree more with the sexist stance. Also found it somewhat funny to think that bribing your girlfriend is supposed to work.


  3. kovvy
    Feb 06, 2012 @ 12:46:59

    Haha, well I hope people have learned by now to take internet relationship advice with a grain of salt. ^_^ Whatever works!


  4. Vicki Lau (@VickiVovo)
    Mar 28, 2012 @ 06:34:52

    Ha, I recently started a blog from the other point of view – as the partner of a gamer. It’s not the typical whinge-blog about how little attention my gaming partner gives me, quite the opposite in fact: mypartnerisagamer[dot]com 🙂


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